Services
About My Clients
Couples who want to learn how to communicate more effectively. Infidelity can seem like the end of a relationship and yet that doesn't have to be the case. I like helping Stew Pot (Blending) couples to be proactive in creating a family where all parts are unique and feel connected. Couples can often become "Room Mates" and need help to build a happier and more loving relationship.
My Background and Approach
I am a Systemic Marriage & Family Therapist and with couples I don't just try to put a Band-Aid on their presenting issues . I "go deep" with them, exploring their personalities and Family of Origin issues that are impacting their present relationship. I will avoid blame and seek to understand their "mutually created dynamic". The client's Goals are what we are guided by and there will be a significant amount of homework , both written and behavioral, for every session. I am trained to be a neutral and will not take sides.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I am from Belfast in Northern Ireland and grew up when the conflict was at it's height. I know what it's like to be in a war zone and how we can end up demonizing those who we are different from. I brother was shot and my family were threatened to, 'get out or be burned out' of my childhood home. This experience is the biggest gift I bring to the therapeutic endeavor. My daughter is a Lesbian and she has helped me to be even more sensitive to difference.