Emotionally Focused Therapy

Using Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) helps clients process and transform deep emotions for lasting healing. I guide individuals in understanding, expressing, and reshaping their emotional experiences, whether related to trauma, relationships, or self-worth. By fostering emotional awareness and resilience, I help clients break free from painful patterns, develop self-compassion, and create more authentic, fulfilling connections with themselves and others.

Nearly 10 years of clinical experience and advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Love. Not many counseling textbooks talk about it, but Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) does. The goal is to strengthen your bonds of attachment. I guide you and your loved ones, moment by moment, through the kinds of interactions that have triggered feelings of abandonment. Moments when you or your loved ones felt incapable of being truly loved. We put those moments under a magnifying glass, and you and your loved ones pull out the splinter.

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

Sometimes you feel your emotions so strongly that it prevents you from thinking straight. I teach clients to regulate and cope with negative emotions as well as gain awareness of their emotions. Furthermore, I assist with developing a strategy to work effectively with a range of emotions.

Unfortunately suffering is a part of life. It is unavoidable, although people employ various types of strategies to avoid suffering and the feelings associated with suffering. It is my belief that in order to withstand suffering, and to heal from it, we must submit to our experience and acknowledge our uncomfortable feelings. I assist my clients in acnowledging their various emotions, and encourage a curiosity about the emotion that initiates a process of healing.

I help clients process the emotions that underlie their thoughts and behaviors and help them gain insight into their suffering.

With specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), I am well-equipped to help couples understand the emotional patterns driving their conflicts. EFCT enables me to guide couples in breaking negative cycles and fostering deeper emotional connections. My education and experience allow me to work with couples at any stage of their relationship, helping them feel more secure, understood, and emotionally bonded through the transformative power of EFCT.

I use a highly experiential approach to therapy. This means I believe that simply thinking or talking about a problem is not enough to create real change. In order for change to occur, we need to go deeper, beyond the thinking mind. Research shows that having a felt experience opens up pathways to new ways of thinking and being. This means we will be working toward having new, felt sense experiences to help you move beyond stuck patterns and ineffective coping strategies and toward real change.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a humanistic, evidence-based approach to psychotherapy, drawing primarily from attachment theory to facilitate the creation of secure, vibrant connection with self and others.

I often work from an Emotion Focused Therapy perspective. Through this approach, we work together to deepen awareness of emotions, feelings and experiences that might be getting in your way, or making you feel stuck. Exploring these emotions in a safe space with deep compassion, can often be very meaningful and freeing, allowing for new insights and renewed sense of grounding, and peace in how you want to be in the world.

We are driven by our emotions. With EFT, I focus on empathy techniques, helping one accept painful emotions, not allowing them to define them, and working on processing them into positive experiences. The process and progress people make is incredible.

I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples in marriage counseling because it is an evidence-based treatment modality. I have advanced training in this effective modality, which research shows has a 90% success rate in helping couples move from distressed relationships to satisfying ones.

I use EFT with couples to identify past experiences, positive and unresolved wounds, in order to gain an understanding of themselves and how they connect to each other. In processing and healing these wounds, couples can establish or restore emotional safety, change communication patterns, and benefit from both individual healing and healing within the couple.

“Although many of us think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think:” Jill Bolte Taylor, neuroanatomist. Emotionally Focused Therapy recognizes that our emotional lives are the source of our desires, values, sense of meaning and purpose, and attachment to self, others, and the world. Its goal is to help clients effectively acknowledge, cope with, and regulate their emotions in order to enrich and transform their lives.

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help individuals and couples deepen their emotional connection and heal from past wounds. EFT focuses on identifying and transforming negative emotional patterns, fostering healthier communication, and creating secure emotional bonds. By exploring and validating emotions, I guide clients in creating a safe space where they can express vulnerability and strengthen relationships, promoting lasting change and deeper understanding.