Skylar Ibarra (she/her)

Many parents find that through those early days of parenting, they feel numb or angry. It's hard to connect with the new baby--this tiny person that you may have wanted, but now has totally upturned your life. You may be experiencing an added layer of guilt and shame around this, or you just want to find the other side of this emotional desert. Whether you think you have a Paripartum Mood Disoder or things are just rough, I am here for you with tools, support, and validation.

often work with people who have gone to multiple therapists before me in hopes to reduce the intensity of their PTSD. They often feel hopeless by the time they reach me. Being failed over and over again is a trauma within itself. have worked with clients who have never shared their trauma with me and have had extreme reduction in their PTSD symptoms. When we are able to recognize when we are triggered, we can actively start to soothe our nervous system.

We can have all the communication strategies, but when that fight or flight kicks in, those therapy tools seem to go straight out the window! Instead, learn how both of you can read your own bodies so you can self-regulate before trying to problem solve. Together, we will work on how both of you can clarify your relationship's values so you have a framework of understanding. I will work with both of you to identify your boundaries so you can both better care for one another.

Do you find you and your partner keep on having the same argument over and over again? Or new arguments always seem to land on old problems? Ones you thought you had dealt with. In the moment, the thing felt so important--you were going to defend the thing at all costs. But after the dust settles, you feel a bit... icky. The thing seems a bit petty now. That feeling though, the feeling of not being heard and not being aligned, that still hurts. Let me help you rewrite the script.

There are so many ways to "treat trauma." But what does that even mean? Many older therapy styles would desensitize the person to their experience, but going through life numb, constantly having to talk yourself out of your actual state of being is a tough way to live. I don't "treat" trauma, but rather I will work with you to safely reconnect to your body so you can cope with the sensations of trauma. Once those skills are set, you can start to gently release your trauma from your nervous sytem

Western society has trained us to believe that our thoughts and feelings are somehow separate from our bodies. Remember when you had that stomach ache when you were little and you were told, "It's just in your head?" Like your head isn't part of your body?! Well, we know from decades of research that it's not all in your head, it's woven throughout your nervous system. Learning to listen to your body can be the key to freeing yourself from the anxiety or depression that feels unending.