Kali Shilvock (she/her)

I have a Master of Arts in Couple and Family Therapy and Sex Therapy Certificate from Antioch University Seattle, and am fully trained in EMDR. I work with adult individuals and couples/polycules on issues and goals related to navigating inter- and intrapersonal distress, relationship communication and skill-building, sex and sexuality, trauma, and deconstructing limiting beliefs and internalized narratives. Central to her work is the intention to foster an environment that is non-judgmental, affirming, and safe for reflection, discussion, and expression. My approach to therapy is integrative; I believe that every person I work with is entirely unique in their needs, goals, and stylistic preferences, and I tailor my approach to suit each client. My work often draws from CBT, EFT, Gottman Couples Therapy, Polyvagal Theory, and Narrative Therapy.

I believe that relationships are one of the most fundamental aspects of human experience. The ways in which we relate to ourselves, others, and our environments form the building blocks of our subjective realities, and supporting clients’ abilities to relate authentically and skillfully in these arenas is core to my work as a therapist. I use a systemic lens in my therapy work and consider not only the intrapersonal sphere, but also how our current and former relationships, family of origin experiences, cultures, communities, and sociopolitical environments shape our worldviews and lived realities. Core to my work is the intention to create an environment that is sex-positive, identity-/gender-/kink-/sex worker-/CNM-/LGBTQIA+ - affirming, and safe for critical dialogue and challenging conversations. I warmly welcome clients with a diversity of intersecting identities.