Nicole Thomte (She/Her/They/Them)

MS LMFT
Accepting Clients

I recognize the places of privilege I occupy, and am a part of the queer, CNM, kink, invisible illness/Spoonie, and fat communities.

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rochester, MN

About My Clients

My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals, couples, and families who live outside the confines of dominant society's expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/kink/CNM/polyam/etc persons, using a largely solution-focused approach from an intersectional feminist lens. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum.

My Background and Approach

My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You're the expert in your life, and I'm here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses. Using a systemic lens, we will acknowledge those things that are distressing that are parts of our many broken systems, validating that it is not you who are broken. I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered. I worked at a behavioral health agency for 6 years. We served those the most difficulties: often already on disability or in the long waiting period after applying, with multiple health troubles, and with the least access to needed resources. I attended supervision groups and co-facilitated survivor groups for Gender Justice Nevada in Nov '12-Jul '18. I learned from the bravery of survivors of sex/gender based violence, oppression, and discrimination, including sex/gender diverse young persons, the families and loved ones of sex/gender diverse persons, and sex workers, as I provided therapeutic group facilitation plus individual, couple, and family therapy, due to my drive to advocate for marginalized communities.

Insurance Plans Accepted
  • Aetna
  • Medicaid
  • Optum
  • Preferred One
  • Minnesota Medical Assistance
  • UCare
I offer online counseling in the following states:

At A Glance

  • Experience: 14 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $150/session

Info

Email Nicole
Teletherapy Only
Rochester, MN 55904

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